Ugh, I hate having to be a caregiver. My mother, brother, and I had to do so for my grandmother a while back, and it was just...we couldn't handle it. Luckily there's other family who is now taking the role but...not the best memories.It's just a matter of getting the insurance in place so that she can get a professional caregiver to look after her, but there have been endless complications at the insurance end. Which is not my problem to deal with , thank goodness, but until it is dealt with I'm the caregiver, housekeeper, etc. etc. and I can't go home until it is satisfactorily settled because for the foreseeable future there is no one else who can take my place. Plus there have been considerable tensions with some of the people involved, which is wearing. My friend and I are glad of the time together, but ... well it is hard on all sorts of levels. She is only a few months older than I am but such is her condition that it might as well be decades, which is heartbreaking since I have known her since we were both young and she was so strong and healthy, now so sick and helpless, at the mercy of others.
And, selfishly, I want to go home to my family. It wasn't supposed to take this long. At the same time, I do want to be here as long as I am needed.
I'm glad that you saw your way through the squeamish parts, and having help makes all the difference in the world! Insurance! what an incredible pain! You absolutely can't do without it on the long term, and many people can't, or can't really, afford it. I so wish it wasn't a "business" so that the emphasis could be on getting people the care that they need rather than seeing a person with a serious and lingering illness as a drain on the viability of the business. (Here in Iowa we have had several insurers go out of business because they were losing money. Hardly seems possible, but it's true.) --- I will hope and pray right along with you for a good outcome. Let us know what you can.I don't regret going, and I only wish I could have left her with the insurance set up and everything going well instead of the way it turned out. But there could still be a good outcome when they've treated her present problems, so I'm hoping for that.